Month: May 2012

  • Sense of Community

    A long time ago in a state far, far away I helped develop neighborhoods into communities. Our goal was not to only build affordable housing, but to create communities of people.

    Whether we were revitalizing, creating mixed developments, or creating new developments, my goal was to try to make the new residents new community members. We held neighborhood meetings, started neighborhood watches, sponsored block parties and helped to enforce codes. We educated people on saving money on energy, maintaining your home, lawn care, and foreclosure prevention.

    We were attempting to instill a sense of community. A sense of community consists of four primary parts:

    1. Membership – The first part is believing that you belong where you are. You need to feel that you are accepted as a member and are personally as well as financially invested in your membership.

    2. Influence – This does not mean that you have the largest home on the block, it means that your voice and opinion is heard. You do not need to be the leader to have influence, you only need to know that you aren’t ignored.

    3. Integration and Fulfillment of Goals – Your participation in the community needs to serve your goals as well as the community goals. Building equity, maintaining stability for your family, and sharing a network of neighbors and friends that can help in a pinch are all examples of ways that your participation and involvement serve you as well as the greater good.

    4. Shared Emotional Connection – When you sit on a bench next to your neighbor and watch your children play in the park, you can share a moment with a neighbor who may have never otherwise been a friend. Shared emotional connections creates a sense of security and belonging that creates a deeper commitment to the community or neighborhood.

    My focus in creating these neighborhoods also centered around bike paths, shared green spaces and parks, front porches and clear bylaws. I participated in all the community building meetings, but the truth is that the residents had to find their own sense of community, our organization could only do so much.  

     

    Though our projects were successful at creating permanent, low crime and low foreclosure rated neighborhoods, sometimes I wonder how many people really want a close community like this. Statistics and grant funding show a push for more close knit mixed use neighborhoods, but yet they are often viewed as low class and created for low income people despite the mix in housing. Municipalities never want to gentrify low income neighborhoods, which is why they mix the housing when revitalizing, but more often than not there are financial losses taken on the higher end housing in a mixed use neighborhood.

    Maybe I am one of the few who chooses to live in a neighborhood like this? My parents built in the country to avoid neighbors, sprawling suburbs and strip malls don’t offer much community spirit either. Young people are leaving small towns in droves, are they looking for opportunities or anonymity? Service Clubs are dying for lack of new members and fewer community gathering places are being utilized. 

    Community is important to me, I need to feel a sense of it to really feel at home. But maybe it means more to me than other people, most people I know don’t know who their neighbors are – or care. Survey question now – how important is a sense of community to you?

  • Using a pen

     

    My husband and I have a journal we share together, a marriage journal. It is used to record daily life, fights, gratitude, and mostly to keep a personal history of our marriage. How often we forget things like our fight about potato salad and how giddy we felt when we watched a stupid movie and then went for a bike ride. Those magical, minute moments define our marriage and we want to record every one. 

    That is the only time I use a pen. It sounds strange, but I never seem to need one other than that. Everything else is on a keyboard. Oh sure, I will sign a card I send and make a hand written to do list, but for the most part every single thing is on my keyboard.

    Blogging, writing papers or reports, check writing and bill paying, texting, emails – all of these things I do far more often than pen and paper. I am more clumsy with a pen than I remember being, and it isn’t as natural feeling as I remember it being. My hand cramps if writing for more than a couple minutes, my handwriting is sloppier and I am slower than when I type.

    I don’t know why this bothers me, but it does. I don’t want to forget how to write on paper. So I have resolved to do much more of it. I started writing letters to people (on paper) and putting them in a card to send it. (Snail mail even.) I left my sister a handwritten note when I was at her house without her rather than sending her a text. I am going to start another type of blog, on paper, like when it was called a personal journal. Though I may want to share it with my favorite xangans, I might scan it in and post it that way. I hope people can still read it!

    Maybe this is a sign of getting old, missing the old way of doing things. But I am going to bring back a few things I have replaced. I am going to wear a watch again. (You know, a wrist band with a face that has a battery and you read hands to tell the time.) I am going to start reading a real book with real paper (no, I will never abandon my kindle, I am just going to do both now winky) and using a bookmark with a nice saying on it to remind me to think happy thoughts. 

    I have been riding my bike lately for short trips rather than driving my SUV around town. I think being on a bicycle reminds me of being a kid and brings out the nostalgia in me.  Yesterday I rode it into town and bought a paper book and another journal with real paper so I can start “journaling” outside of our marriage journal. Who knows, maybe my handwriting will improve again.

    But I will never, ever, go back to writing checks on paper. That’s just silly. Some things are for the better, nostalgia or not.

  • It’s Mordorial Day Weekend

    I may have mentioned that Corey was a theater major. His love for fantasy worlds has always warmed my heart, even though much of it is silly and fun and reminds me of a kid. Marrying him has brought out the kid in me as he introduced me to the things he enjoys. 

    One of those things is called Dagohir. It’s complicated, and someday I will go into details about all it is, but basically it’s a group of adults that dress up and take on different personalities based on Lord of the Rings characters. They meet, fight each other with foam swords, but generally have fun, camp and hang out. Prior to meeting Corey I had never imagined this, and when I first met him I laughed myself silly that adults would do such a thing. But they do, and it’s fun. It has the feel of a Renaissance Festival weekend, with more drinking and middle earth style battles.

    Someday I will explain more about this, but for now I will let the pics do the talking.

     

    The reason I am sharing this with you is because it is Mordorial Day weekend (Corey is in the Mordor army) and we are camping out all weekend for friendship and fun. Even I have to dress the part as the general’s wife though I am not in the army. 

    When I put away my grown up self, and quit laughing at how ridiculous it all was and simply let myself be part of it I learned to have a great time with this group. I hope your weekend is just as fun!

  • In Preparation for Zombie Apocalypse

    My husband wants to run this race:

    The “Run For Your Life 5K” an obstacle race with zombies on your tail.

    This video is just the trailer, the race video is below.

    Similar to the Tough Mudder and other fun courses, the Run For Your Life race offers all the fun on the other courses. This one is different because you have to wear flags on your belt and if the zombies catch you they will steal one of your flags before they eat your brains.

    I am sure I can run a 5K, but I don’t know if I will be healed enough for the obstacles. I hope so, I need the training. Z-Day is right around the corner.

    Here is their link: http://runforyourlives.com/

     

  • Does Organic Food Turn You Into a Jerk?

     

    Living in Boulder, land of the perfectly healthy, educated and morally superior, I encounter these assholes everyday. 

    Imagine sitting at a restaurant.

    Jackass- Are these rolls gluten free?

    Waiter – Let me check.

    Jackass – If you need to check the answer is no. What about substituting rice for Quinoa?

     

    Hiking with my friend.

    Her – Do you mind if we stop at the Farmer’s Market on the way back?

    Me – Sure, I love their veggies.

    Her – I am going to make sure they don’t use any pesticides or raise livestock before I buy from them.

     

    In the local Safeway, there is a “Nut Bar” with a wall of mixed nuts in every variety. There’s medical marijuana shops that outnumber Starbucks, but if you light a cigarette you are scorned. 

    I am all for striving to be healthy, but the moral superiority that organic eaters has always irked me. Apparently I am not the only one. Dr. Kendall J. Eskine, assistant professor of the psychological sciences department at Loyola University in New Orleans, did a study of organic eaters and their level of “asshole-ness” (I made that up). These are his findings:

    “the organic-food participants were more judgmental than those in the comfort-food category. They were also more reluctant when asked to volunteer time to help strangers, the study found, offering only 13 minutes vs. the brownie eaters’ 24 minutes. It’s like the group had already fulfilled its moral-justice quota by buying organic, so it felt all right slacking off in other ethics-based situations. Eskine labeled it “moral licensing.”” 

    It reminds me of a South Park episode where the world was being overtaken by the “smug” that was being omitted from hybrid cars.

    Here is the full article: http://newsfeed.time.com/2012/05/21/does-organic-food-turn-you-into-a-jerk/

     

     

  • Date Night

    The last few months have been busy for my husband and I have been entertaining myself, and it is time to slow down and appreciate each other. Tonight we are having a date night, and it’s my job to plan it.

    Funny things happen when you’re married. We’ve settled in, found routines, become best friends. Long, deep conversation has been replaced by playing games together (the new Walking Dead game for the 360 is awesome!), our walks in the evening are still hand in hand, but rather than talking about dreams and sharing our secrets, we talk about schedules, school and work, and family. I am not sorry that  we have become so comfortable, it’s a great comfort. But it does make romantic evenings more difficult.

    I am thinking of taking him to a movie – he has wanted to see Avengers since it came out and has been too busy. I could sit through it and probably even enjoy it, but I don’t know if that’s romantic. 

    We both love ice cream, so we could go to Cold Stone Creamery or Spooners for ice cream and giggling. We love to do that and walk around downtown, but I don’t know if that is very romantic, either. 

    We could go out to eat at our favorite restaurant, have a glass of wine, and I could try to say deeply romantic and poetic things to him – but he knows me too well, and would know I was looking things to say up online because sweet nothings are definitely not my gift. 

     

    We could ride our bikes into town, stop by the gym for a quick workout, ride to the bookstore and drink coffee and explore new books. THAT sounds like an awesome date night as far as I am concerned, but it’s nothing new to us and probably not romantic.

     

    Maybe we could go to Elitch’s Gardens, ride the rides, get wet, laugh and have a ball? Again though, NOT romantic

    Or maybe we should stay home, order a pizza and drink a few beers. We could play video games, giggle and laugh, and skip dressing up and I wouldn’t have to do my nails. After all, how can having fun and relaxing with my best friend be anything but romantic?

     

    (Any last minute suggestions welcome!)

     

     

  • Final Day with @RighteousBruin

    Monday afternoon I met @RighteousBruin at Jamba Juice in Boulder. I had high hopes of taking him for a good hike, but I was in rough shape after foolishly trying to run that morning, so we settled for a pretty walk instead. 

    After I lost him in traffic and gave him poor directions to where I was, we decided to ride together. He must have thought it was safer to ride with me than follow me in traffic, but I think he had second thoughts because he never loosened his grip on the “Oh Shit” handles in the truck. 

    We made it safe and sound to Marshall Mesa Trailhead and walked the three mile loop. It is a beautiful area and easy on the knees. 

    I chattered his ear off (He’s a great listener :) ) while I hobbled along with him. He never once complained about the easy walk or the many things I had to say.

    About a half mile in, a nasty brown snake slithered across our path. I squealed like a school girl but Gary only snickered. He told me it was a baby garter snake, but I am certain it was much more dangerous than that. Regardless, he saved me from the nasty reptile.

     

    I was reluctant to return him to his car after our walk, so instead we went to Eldorado Canyon just across the road. I could only get out and look, there was no hiking for me that day. He was a good sport again, and though I could tell he was itching to explore he didn’t make me feel like a lame duck.

    After a little walking around and checking out the park, I relented and returned him to his car so he could have dinner with his family. He was unable to post about this because he is having trouble with windows, but if he gets it straightened out I hope he does. We took many more pictures and he paid attention to more than my prattling so he could share more interesting facts about our day. He keeps his xanga friends in mind as he travels, and takes pictures of certain things because he knows friend A likes flowers and friend B likes boulder fields. He is truly thoughtful and considerate, and a joy to spend time with.

    Safe travels, Gary! I can’t wait to see your pics as you go!

  • Parachuting Mice, Invisibility Cloaks, and LA Smog

    I love Treehugger.com. I waste many hours on that site and love most of their articles. 

    Today, after reading about Buddy71′s yucky snakes, I found the best way to combat snakes – parachuting mice that are laced with acetaminophen. To rid Guam of their invasive brown snake problem (which has eliminated 10 of their 12 native bird species), millions of suicidal mice are parachuting onto the island with poison. 

    That’ll teach those nasty little snakes.

    In other news, color changing squid are teaching us new ways to create invisibility cloaks. And we have all wanted one of those!

    Other than being a really cool science experiment, this biomimetic artificial muscle technology could have some neat applications. Project lead Jonathan Rossiter said “Our artificial chromatophores are both scalable and adaptable and can be made into an artificial compliant skin which can stretch and deform, yet still operate effectively. This means they can be used in many environments where conventional ‘hard’ technologies would be dangerous, for example at the physical interface with humans, such as smart clothing.”” 

    This sounds like the coolest fashion craze ever.

    Cows, not cars, are to blame for smog in LA.

    “Ammonia emissions due to dairy cattle in the Southern California air basin (SoCAB) could be almost triple the tonnage of ammonia emissions from automobiles. Ammonia serves as a key ingredient in the recipe for smog.”

    That is all I have today. 

  • I’m getting better

    Today was my second “run” since the stupid dog took out my knee a few weeks ago. It was less than 3 miles and at a snail’s pace, but still markedly better. 

    The cool weather helps, too. 

    Thank you for asking how I am doing, I will be marathon ready in no time!

  • Our Real Problems

    Involve cash. Money. The economy.

    The national unemployment rate has dropped to 8.1 percent, down from nearly 10 percent in 2010. The toal underemployment rate at the end of 2011 was 33.1 percent. (Underemployment includes three classifications of persons -unemployed workers who are actively looking for work, involuntarily part-time workers who want full-time work but have had to settle for part-time hours, and marginally attached workers who want and are available for a job, but are not actively looking. Together, they provide a more comprehensive measure of slack in the labor market.) Nominal hourly wage growth has been generally slowing since the summer of 2010 and remains low—nominal hourly wages grew at a 1.3% annualized rate over the last three months.   With inflation currently at around 2.9%, this means real wages are falling. Real personal consumption expenditures increased 2.9 percent this year due to low interest rates, but incomes haven’t budged – obviously creating an increase in consumer debt. 

    46.2 million people are below the poverty level and have been there for more than 12 months. It is the first time since the Great Depression that median household income  had not risen, calling this the “lost decade”. The percentage of Americans living below the poverty line last year was 15.1 percent. (The poverty line in 2010 for a family of four was $22,314.) Non-business filings totaled 1,536,799 in 2010, up 9 percent from the 1,412,838 non-business bankruptcy filings in 2009. This hurts the financial stability of households and businesses. 

    Sometime between now and when we vote in November, the national debt will exceed the U.S. economy’s entire annual production. In an attempt for states, counties and municipalities to cut spending funds are being cut for police officers, fire departments, teachers and social service workers.

    Homelessness is out of control. Food banks and shelters cannot support the increase in need. Government assistance programs are not able to fund the need. 

     

    Good news is:

    Real gross domestic product — the output of goods and services produced by labor and property located in the United States — increased at an annual rate of 2.2 percent in the first quarter of 2012 (that is, from the fourth quarter to the first quarter), according to the “advance” estimate released by the Bureau of Economic Analysis. In the fourth quarter of 2011, real GDP increased 3.0 percent. (http://www.bea.gov/newsreleases/national/gdp/gdpnewsrelease.htm)  U.S. exports hit an all-time high in March, with $186.8 billion in American-made goods and services sold overseas. 

    I am not sure why I am looking at all of these numbers, and I am sure I will regret posting about this. It just seems to me that people lose sight of some of the real problems we are facing. I am all for protecting our civil liberties and advancing equality and justice, but it is hard to think of morality and spirituality when we can’t feed ourselves. 

    Regardless of who you choose to vote for and support in office (I am voting Obama, myself), make sure you are looking at the less glamorous issues as well. We need to pay attention to military, foreign relations, infrastructure spending, and our economy as much as the social issues out there that are more fun to write about.

     Normally I monitor the comments and make sure everyone is being civil to each other, but I am not going to be around much today or tonight. Basically – if you want to fight with each other about whose fault this is or whatever, go ahead. You are on your own though, I am not moderating this one. 

    Enough depressing crap – I am going for a hike.

     

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