May 18, 2012
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Date Night
The last few months have been busy for my husband and I have been entertaining myself, and it is time to slow down and appreciate each other. Tonight we are having a date night, and it’s my job to plan it.
Funny things happen when you’re married. We’ve settled in, found routines, become best friends. Long, deep conversation has been replaced by playing games together (the new Walking Dead game for the 360 is awesome!), our walks in the evening are still hand in hand, but rather than talking about dreams and sharing our secrets, we talk about schedules, school and work, and family. I am not sorry that we have become so comfortable, it’s a great comfort. But it does make romantic evenings more difficult.
I am thinking of taking him to a movie – he has wanted to see Avengers since it came out and has been too busy. I could sit through it and probably even enjoy it, but I don’t know if that’s romantic.
We both love ice cream, so we could go to Cold Stone Creamery or Spooners for ice cream and giggling. We love to do that and walk around downtown, but I don’t know if that is very romantic, either.
We could go out to eat at our favorite restaurant, have a glass of wine, and I could try to say deeply romantic and poetic things to him – but he knows me too well, and would know I was looking things to say up online because sweet nothings are definitely not my gift.
We could ride our bikes into town, stop by the gym for a quick workout, ride to the bookstore and drink coffee and explore new books. THAT sounds like an awesome date night as far as I am concerned, but it’s nothing new to us and probably not romantic.
Maybe we could go to Elitch’s Gardens, ride the rides, get wet, laugh and have a ball? Again though, NOT romantic.
Or maybe we should stay home, order a pizza and drink a few beers. We could play video games, giggle and laugh, and skip dressing up and I wouldn’t have to do my nails. After all, how can having fun and relaxing with my best friend be anything but romantic?
(Any last minute suggestions welcome!)
Comments (75)
Hey you guys have to try the slingshot ride! I’ve been watching them on youtube and they are so funny.
Sounds like a plan, Avengers is a total winner ^-^I bet you’ll enjoy it.
Movie, ice crem and make out in a dark spot in a public park lol get back to teenage romance, it’s such a sweet way to live love ^-^
@MrTrololo - That sounds like fun! Is it at Elitches?
I think “romantic” is relative. If it’s something you both want to do and like to do, then do it. Doing what he loves and would like to do simply because he would like it, is romantic!
One anniversary before we had 800 children, we went to six flags. That was our anniversary. It was so fun.
Enjoy your date night!
@xXxlovelylollipop - That’s the direction I am leaning! I will let you know if that’s what we do and I will fill you in on whether or not I like the movie too!
If you are doing Avengers buy your tickets ahead of time – lots of sell outs.
You could stay home, do pizza and rent a porno – dress seductively - etc.
@bethro78 - Thanks! You are probably right, I may be putting too much pressure on “romance”. But he put me on the spot! Yikes! That sounds like a great anniversary, and obviously one you remember, which makes it romantic
I have my crack team of troll spies on it and yes, they have it. http://elitchgardens.com/theme-park/thrill-rides/
@BoulderChristina - Great! I watched it with a quite amazing company too (my kids) lol
@RushmoreJ - Still selling out? Geez, hasn’t that been out forever now? We could do that.. but if I am going to bother with dressing up we may as well go out!
@MrTrololo - Your troll resources are limitless! I am so fortunate to be on the right side of trolling with you! That does look like fun, maybe if I can pick him up from work before it gets too late..
@xXxlovelylollipop - The BEST company!
@BoulderChristina - lol if my network picks up trollable activity, I’ll make sure to contact you first LOL
@BoulderChristina - maybe i should have said to dress down
ice cream, pizza and movies is a really sweet date idea. or go to the park and eat your pizza and ice cream =)
“let’s have a moment of silence for all those who are stuck in traffic on their way to the gym to ride stationary bicycles”
bwahahahaha. that is awesome!!
My favorite date night? Dress up all fancy, but stay home. Eat something deliciously bad for you, but on fancy plates with linen napkins. Drink wine, of course, and play video games. Make sure you win. And then indulge in mind blowing sex. Yes, that would be a very good date night in my book. Hehehe…
@RushmoreJ -
@electrons_in_hatius_2009 - All great ideas… You may be on to something!
I don’t do romance well either but going out for Ice cream sounds sweet but then again staying home ordering a pizza and drinking a few beers while playing video games sounds more my speed. Whatever you decide to do though, I hope you have a wonderful date night!
@light_blue_fables - That sounds like a great date night! I always win, of course.
I wonder if I even own any linen napkins though.. Glad you liked the quote, that is one of those things that has always baffled me!
@The_Unwritten_Stories - Thank you! Nice to meet another “romantically challenged” lady!
you might not even get out the door before…
sorry, i’ve been writing fiction too much
have fun you two. you deserve a date night. we haven’t had one in i dunno, eternity
oh yeah last time was october 2011. went barhopping. that was lots of fun.
“foreplay” leaps to mind when i look at your pics
The walk and the ice cream sounds good to me…but then the movie sounds fun…the bicycle ride would kill me off ( mainly because I am not the most graceful thing on a bike) the only other thing I might add is dancing I do love to dance…
But any way have a great date night
@bonmots - I wish some of your fiction was reality! Foreplay, well it’s all about foreplay, isn’t it? Sometimes foreplay is when he does the dishes and I pay the bills, sometimes it’s when he is consoling one of my heartbroken daughters on the phone, sometimes it’s watching him laugh with his friends and light up like the boy he used to be. Foreplay has changed over the years, but it’s still foreplay.
@SisterMae - Ohh… I didn’t even consider that! We LOVE to dance! We like to swing dance, and there’s a great club we haven’t visited in months… Thank you, that is now on my maybe list!
ELITCHES!!
@BoulderChristina - very nice
i haven’t given the topic much thought. which is not unusual. i am not very introspective
@BoulderChristina - Jeff and I usually go fishing when it is nice out that is where we get our quiet just be together time and sometimes it is even laugh like crazy time
@voodoo_flower_child - +1!
@SisterMae - The best part of being goofy while fishing is there are no witnesses, well, except the fishes!
@bonmots - You just don’t sweat the small stuff!
I agree with @bethro78 - Romance is relative. The fact that you are considering watching a movie that you are not too sure you will enjoy says 1,000,000 words. That, to me, is very romantic. Ice cream is a very romantic food in my opinion – you could share. The whole reach across the table or next to each other, feeding each other from your ice cream is very movie classic romance I believe.
What ever you do I am sure you will have a wonderful time. Especially since you are with your best friend. Anything different then the everyday will be great for both of you.
Pshh, who cares if it’s “romantic”? Is it fun, that’s the question! Any and all of these sound fun to me, and fun is romantic, so… I vote roller coasters!
@WaitingToShrug – haha, that’s a +2! You guys are right, romance can be laughing and fun – not just sappy and lame!
@ObscuredRendition – thank you! I think you are right, and I’m going to quit stressing over the sappy stuff. Thank you for your words about the movie, I hadn’t looked at it that way.
awww this was so sweet
I feel like after you’ve been together so long, romantic can seem kind of forced, and we fail to find the romantic in the every day things, like hanging out at home in comfortable clothes playing a game together – that can certainly be romantic!
and if its not, then oh well, it’s fun!
@raspberryjade – thank you, and exactly! I hope that as long as we can always have fun and not forget how lucky we are that we are still a strong couple. Poetry and flowers aren’t all marriages are made of!
Twister! (in the buff of course)
i’ve no specific ideas but to do something fun together and have fun, something you might both feel you have to do again or more often rather. a movie could be fun but in my experience when i go to a movie with someone i spend 2 hours focused on the movie and not on the person i went with. still, if that’s what you decide then enjoy. i’m sure it will be fun too. share a popcorn haha.
Aww. Well “romantic” can mean different things to different people. For him, watching the Avengers with you and then going out for a quiet, low key dinner, might be very romantic.
You two deserve one. Going to a movie sounds nice and you don’t have to get too too dressed up for that. Have a nice, relaxing evening home sounds nice too.
sex in nature.
Awww this is so sweet
He looks spookily a lot like Austin Powers, except his teeth are better.
@Roadkill_Spatula - Hahaha, I don’t think I am going to tell him that!
@Closure_Theory -
Dinner out, with good wine, at some quiet place where they truly know how to cook. Absolutely the best.
@plantinthewindow - Fun maybe, not so romantic though
@xdeelynnx - Thanks! You are too sweet
@lucylwrites - Thank you
@TheSutraDude - Good point! Thank you
I need to see that movie but I get the privilege of going alone.
@Kellsbella - It’s not just for breakfast anymore!
@BoulderChristina - All you have to do is reorder the pictures in your post so they’re together, and everyone will notice the resemblance.
@HappierHeathen - That sounds like something he would enjoy, he is a lot like you.
@godfatherofgreenbay - You don’t have to share the popcorn that way!
@Roadkill_Spatula - Now you have me looking more closely, but I don’t see it. I WON’T see it!
collective AWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW!
I was wondering if he was working at night lately or what. Because somehow I knew you had extra time because we’ve been blessed with your presence around xanga much more so than usual.
The thing in the heart is hilarious with the crossouts. I really realate to the challenge which means “I got nothin.”
The only way to being back the other kind of romance is to travel apart for a while or almost break up or something, none of which is worth all that, romance doesn’t have to be scary!
@bonmots - i am not very introspective
@DivaJyoti - True words about the romance, I think you’re right. I am not willing to risk us for the rush
He’s been busy wrapping up the school year, but will be around much more in a couple of weeks.
It’s always nice to know I am not the only poetry challenged lady around!
@BoulderChristina - re poetry – I can do Dr. Seuss style and I can do ‘country songs’ type of poetry, either of which would only make me and newdog either laugh wildly or else try to put it to music.
I suspect the two of you could make any of those events romantic. Isn’t it all about a “happy ending?”
@vexations -
Order the pizza and have lights on low or candles lite. Have on something that is suggestive along with a cocktail, your choice, poured and waiting……..
awe! This post made me feel all warm and fuzzy inside, hehe <3 I hope you guys had a great date.
i loved this! i’m glad you both are trying.
you do look so comfortable together, but also very happy.
please let us know how it went. =)
It is great to attach the big guy’s name with a smiling face. In my experience, “date night” doesn’t have to be novel to be romantic. The romance is like a spring. It bubbles up to the surface, unexpectedly, but reliably.
Hope your night was exquisite.
“That’s not my bag, baby” had me totally on the rug and here I was trying to be serious for a nano second. Darlin’, I am no help at all on the romantic thoughts. I mean… I am… but… Oh heck, maybe I’ll just message you. Still, I love a good movie and then going for ice cream. Something about those two things together work very well to relax both of you. Try a little making out while watching the movie. Do y’all have a drive in there abouts? Now there’s romantic. Hmmm, I think I need a little more romance in my life. Actually, a HELL of a lot more.
Hope you had a great time whatever you decided to do.
GREAT pics of the two of you!!
@Unique_Monic - That may be a great night for tonight!
@wretched_epiphany - Thank you! We had a ball
@YouToMe - Thank you so much! We had a great time.
@RighteousBruin - Thank you, Gary! We had a great time.
@MzSilver - Haha, thank you! We opted for movie, ice cream and then we walked around Pearl Street and enjoyed the night life. We went to an Irish Pub that was had an Irish band playing, we had a beer and tried to do a little dancing. His first spin me around the floor tore my knee up and reminded me I was far from healed, despite all the ignoring I was doing! We had a terrific night, thank you so much
@BoulderChristina – Welcs
. Oh good!